I would feel it fit to say that everyone (usually) has at least one relationship that they look back on and say "what the hell was i doing with them?" then we grow up realize how far we've come and how we can do so much better than that (and hopefully we have). For me that was my high school boyfriend, LL Cool J*. I was a Jr. and average. I wasn't popular or a complete loser, but had friends in every circle. I went to school, because at the time there was no other option. I was there purely because I had to be, not because I wanted to be. Socializing was easy for me, but not my life and I didn't not care what people thought of me so I just followed my own trend. Which for most everyday consisted of jeans, an over sized hoody, hair in a messy ponytail, no makeup, and a bottle of dr. pepper. My "high school sweetheart" LL Cool J was a sophomore, not the brightest crayon in the box, and had some interesting hobbies... as in rap (he was white). He walked, talked, and dressed the part. I thought he was everything I had been looking for. He didn't care what I wore, how I looked, or the way I acted. My friends didn't see what I saw in him... or maybe it was the other way around. Now looking back, I'm glad I'm with Ace* because LL Cool J and I would have never worked out for a lifetime, but I did learn a lot from that relationship and I'm thankful for that. We would make great friends if we could ever get past the same stupid arguments that ruined our relationship. But anyways, back to my point, he was my "what was i thinking" relationship. I kinda feel like we have to have them but at the same time i hope not. I have a close friend Gigi* who's boyfriend Mit* I don't feel like is right for her. She's 20 years old and I get that she can make her own choices... but they've only been together for like 2 and half months and are completely rushing things. Gigi has NEVER had a boyfriend... she is the epitome of innocent and Mit has the rep of being a man whore, stalker type. Both Mit and Gigi are currently members of the Mormon church. Mit is a convert and Gigi has been a member her whole life. Part of the religion is no sex before marriage, you're not supposed to spend the night with a person of the opposite sex, you're not supposed to go further than kissing/making out. By not following these "guidelines" you at the very least have to go through the process of repentance and at worst can be ex-communicated. Mit is "supposedly" wanting to go on mission and Gigi is now considering going on one also, but even without a mission in mind the things they are getting into are preventing them from a temple marriage. So my conclusion is that when an innocent/horny girl (even with morals) gets together with a man whore (who i feel only "claims" to have the same morals) there can only be trouble... and i know that if Gigi does go all the way with him (or anyone before she's married) she will regret it.
Ok enough with my insane ramblings... that took forever to get to what I was trying to get at. More when I have something else to rant about. Enjoy your holiday weekend!
*indicates name changed so not reveal their actual identities... duh!
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